Thoughts on Father’s Day
Thoughts | June 20, 2010
There are too many fathers out there who don’t deserve this day.
There are too many women who don’t trust men due to the lack of a father figure or male role model in their life. There are too many women whose fathers are responsible, in part, for their promiscuity. There are too many little girls who’ve cried themselves to sleep, not knowing why the scenes in their living room played out like the violence they saw on TV. Nothing excuses the act of a father laying a hand on his daughter or wife. A few desultory emails and phone calls a year does not count as correspondence, and no amount of money exempts a man from his fatherly responsibilities.
To all the current and future fathers out there: Do your duty to the human being you helped to bring into this world. Don’t be the disappointment of your child’s life.
To all the daughters and sons out there with failed fathers, I give you a quote from Stick It (and I will refrain from making a really bad pun about men sticking a certain appendage where and when they shouldn’t): “There are a lot of great people who’ve had jerks for parents. We’ve gotta stick together.”
To all the children out there who have never been wronged by their fathers: Do something special for them. Show your appreciation in the form of something other than an ugly tie, unless some inside joke exists behind the gifting of that tie.
To my own father, even though he won’t read this: Happy fucking Father’s Day.
It’s heartbreaking that there are so many fathers out there who are only fathers in name, and not in action. I hope that people who are lucky to have fathers that are “in action” take the time to let the dad know how much they appreciate him.
My heart goes out to you, love. I hope your relationship with your father might heal someday. If you ever need to talk, I’m here
Wei-Wei
Thank you for this blog post. I’ve never known my father…he disappeared off the face of the earth when my mom told him that she was pregnant. Neither my mom or I have heard from him in any way since then. I don’t even know if he’s alive or dead. And yes, I have issues with trusting men because of him and other things that happened later in my life that involved males.
Anyways, I agree with every single word that you wrote. I’ve come to the point where I make a distinction between a “father” and a “dad”. A “father” is just that…the guy who provided the sperm. A “dad” actually takes an active role in their child(ren)’s life. A dad actually deserves to be celebrated on Father’s Day…a mere father does not.
This is true, there are many fathers out there that don’t deserve this but I don’t think they receive much love on Fathers Day anyway. I mean, if you aren’t a good father, no kid in their right mind is gonna reward them for it xP
But, you do hold good views. TOO MANY men get away with stuff and hardly any receive fair enough repercussions
I love this post. It offers a very different perspective on Father’s Day. I have a great father myself, but from the misfortunes of some of my best friends, I (sort of) understand what it’s like in the opposite situation. *hugs*
This is certainly not what I was expecting when I read the title. But I agree. Parents have such an important responsibility that is so often neglected. They think that their kids are property, not human beings.
Well said.